We all have said or thought things we regret. Every single one of us. There isn’t one person who hasn’t said anything that could offend somebody. Many individuals like to pretend online that they are saints sent from Heaven, but we know better. Those of us that judge someone and preach about their past might want to take a glimpse into our own entire legacy and think about the times we had errors in judgment and said things we are ashamed of. Some of us may have even said things this week that offended somebody. Last night, for instance, I called one of my best friends a “disrespectful a******” for calling me at midnight for a ride after he ignored me two hours earlier when I was ready to go get him. I feel bad about it right now as I type this. I don’t think he is an a-hole. But I said it.
Rumors are circulating that things former TNA star Havok tweeted four years ago have cost her a job opportunity with WWE. I read the tweets and she did say some awful things, including racial and homophobic slurs. Things she said as a 23 or 24 year old have allegedly cost the now 28 year old the chance at a new job.
Let me get this out of the way now, because I know some people will get to this point and take everything out of context. If Havok is racist or homophobic now, then I have absolutely zero sympathy for the woman. But, I choose to give her the benefit of the doubt and assume she has grown up in the past four years unless she proves otherwise. Perhaps she regrets these things, thought she was making funny jokes, or was just being a dumb 23 year old. I would LOVE to go back in time and kick the crap out of my 23 year old self.
There are no excuses for what she said. I ask, though, is it fair to punish someone for something they said four years ago if they have grown up and are ashamed of themselves? Are you the same person you were four years ago? I have no idea if there is a specific time frame to forgive people, or what things are considered too offensive compared to others. Every situation is different. Please keep that in mind before you ask me if I would forgive someone who murdered someone ten years ago.
Many people are judging Havok based on these tweets. All I ask is that you consider both sides of the coin. What if she has grown in the past four years, become a better person, and currently has zero hate in her heart? Isn’t that what is really important?
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